10 Beliefs That Can Limit Your Visibility

I had some really interesting discoveries while working with my clients on their social media presence over the past few years. Oftentimes, many of them would come to a workshop, or a 1:1 training, to learn how Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn works. 

They would get an understanding on the possibilities the platforms can offer to promote their services, themselves. They would get their social media strategies sorted, get clarity on what, how, when and where to post, and get excited and ready to start showing up and attracting new clients.  

But then, something happens. They get stuck. They start procrastinating. They get into analysis paralysis as they strive for perfection, and end up not posting anything on their pages. 

They know their business inside out, yet a feeling of inadequateness starts creeping in... The whole social media marketing becomes a struggle...

No matter that they learned the technical skills, got the marketing tips, became aware of the how to-s and what to-s, they get blocked by something that limits them from putting themselves out there and becoming visible.

That little voice in the head...

The more I worked with people, the more I started picking up on recurring themes, patterns, and started feeling into what is really going on in the background. I found out it was beliefs, limiting beliefs that kept holding my clients back from showing up.

So, here are 10 very popular and recurring beliefs that I found along the way: 

1. I have nothing to say, nothing worthwhile to share. 
2. I won’t get any comments.
3. No one will be interested, no one cares, no one will listen.
4. I’m afraid I will get it wrong. It’s easier to be quiet and safe than to be visible and risk it all.
5. Everything has to be perfect otherwise I will not look professional.
6. I will be judged, criticized. 
7. Promoting my business is hard work.
8. I can’t do something I love and enjoy.
9. I am too much, I will come across as bragging, over-confident, too self-promotional.
10. I’m too busy, I don’t have time.

Most of these beliefs turned out to be connected to feeling inadequate, unworthy, not good enough, insignificant, lost, and feeling alone with it all. 

It might be heavy to take this in first. It might be interesting how social media can suddenly take people to the depths of their beliefs… Like a mirror to the heart and soul, seeing through all the polished filters, carefully prepared & worded posts, the intellect of the mind.

The more we dig deeper with my clients, the more I find that these beliefs stem from early childhood, from a conflict with a parent, a teacher at school in the early years, a generational/historic pattern that is carried for so long, a conditioning, something that has "always been done that way” in the family. 

They are deeply embedded in the subconscious mind, packed away, usually not dealt with, not having full awareness around it. But just because this topic is parked on the side, it doesn't mean it is not having an enormous impact on people's lives, business activities, the way they relate with their clients, and so much more.

The question now is: do these beliefs serve them still, or have they maybe reached their "expiration date”?

Is it maybe time to look at these patterns a bit more closely, with more love, without judgement?

Perhaps understand them from another perspective, and change them into something more supportive, more empowering? 

Is it maybe possible to show up on social media, and beyond, with more confidence, fun and ease?

Could all this possibly lead to a better, happier life?
Could it? Could it really? 

Did you just spot one of your limiting beliefs? Or were you aware of it already but don't really know what to do with it? You might like to check this technique out.