I'd like to share with you a very personal process today. It might open up some new perspectives for you on how it can be possible for you, too, to attract the people who will most benefit from your unique experiences and with who you will not only do business, but also have a lovely time together.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~ This quote by Anais Nin!!!
I remember when this quote found me 3 years ago… suddenly, upon reading it, everything got so clear. I realised where I was at that moment. And suddenly, I realised that there is a huge opportunity just in front of me, if I was ready to take that risk...
Today I'd like to bring you some reflections inspired by the floods, slips and all the change, uncertainty happening in our world. We have been hit by a severe weather event this week, and I imagine many of you might have been impacted by it in various ways.
This is not about marketing today and visibility in terms of showing up for others and promotion. Today is about that visibility from within that can have a huge impact on that outside visibility, when the time is right.
Grab a cuppa, and let it begin...
Hello, and welcome to “It's all about visibility”. A new series where I am planning to explore visibility from two very different aspects. A wonderful mix of social media and basically personal brand marketing, all the way to personal development and getting clarity on who we are, how we operate, and what are we here for.
This is for you if you are interested in tips and stories how to promote yourself better on the social platforms, and how to explore new tools for personal development...
So I just sat down to write my awards entry. A great colleague of mine reminded me some days ago that the deadline is coming up and asked if I was entering this year, too?
I wasn't sure, to be honest, especially given the big changes in the way my business has been developing of late, but my mind definitely got fired up upon being reminded...
Entering an award is GAME ON for visibility!!! But this time, this was about something else... another perspective for visibility!
So it happened that 6 chairs appeared in a circle in my vision. I could clearly see them. And guess what, we were 6 this weekend!!!
Here is the story of the 1st workshop!!!
I've always loved hearts. When I was little, every kid used to have a sign in my kindergarten - the heart was mine. It stayed with me ever since.
Last week, I got this beautiful heart shaped candle from a lovely client. I lit it today, and the topic of love appeared. In particular, the topic of loving and accepting ourselves.
A topic that hugely impacted the way I run my business, how I show up professionally, and how I market myself, on social media, and beyond. Love and work, yes they can go hand in hand!
It was a long journey for me, to get to love and accept myself. And I thought I did love and accept myself. I achieved a lot of things, I was successful in the things I did, I was confident, and I was proud of where I got to.
Yet, something was never fulfilling me... Deep inside I felt something was not ok. It seemed like I had to work harder and harder to get the success. Like the more I worked, it was never enough, I was expected to do more. To get the appreciation. To get really, the love I was craving for. It was getting really tiring. But I pushed it away, and found excuses not to really go there.
Until one day, when somehow everything got shaken, broken, and I totally lost my confidence. I was in a stage of my life when I simply couldn't "do things" the way I did before. I couldn't achieve things the way I did anymore. I became a mom. This phase of my life was not about doing things, but rather of letting go and feeling.
It was new. It was foreign territory. I felt stuck and powerless. My dose of appreciation through work, through external things and achievements was not fulfilled anymore. I suddenly found myself in this new space, not validated from the outside, and my cup of self-love that was constantly being filled from the outside was getting emptier and emptier. I was craving it and needing it. But not getting it in the way I knew it worked. And I only knew that way at that time.
It was hard. Challenging. Heartbreaking. I remember one day I was sitting in front of the big mirror, taking up the advice of a professional, to keep looking at myself and tell myself all the things that I loved about myself, that I actually love myself. I did it for weeks, every single day. It didn't work. I was trying to achieve something that deep inside, I didn't believe in. There was no more fake it till you make it. This strategy quickly expired. I got to the point to actually start facing myself.
Motherhood launched me on a journey. That when I can't look for love outside, how can I look within. I went through a lot of techniques, tried a lot of things to help myself. Many things worked, many didn't. But it wasn't till I found ThetaHealing that I could really start experiencing what unconditional love is, what it means to me, and how can I access it without doing anything for it.
This was not conditioned. I didn't have to finally do anything or achieve anything for it. I didn't have to finally work hard for it. Hence the name, unconditional love.
My conscious mind didn't understand this. This is why telling myself that I love myself as I was looking in the mirror didn't work. I just got so angry! Because something in my subconscious didn't believe it. And as science has shown, 90% of everything we do is run by our subconscious.
I had to go to my subconscious to explore what was the belief I had around love, clear out the parts that limited me, and then I could fully believe that I can love and accept myself. Without needing anything or anyone to feel that.
It changed the way I felt about being a mother, and how I related to my child. And it changed the way I felt about the relationship with my mother. It actually started changing every single relationship in my life, including all my work relations, client relations, relations with colleagues, competition, everyone.
It was a beautiful, heartwarming, relieving experience. I know I am loved, and I know I love myself. This is stronger than any confidence I experienced before.
On knowing this, I can now look straight in my eyes in the mirror, and know how it feels to love myself.
Once I tapped into this new feeling, I started noticing differences in how I communicated. If I felt loved, I communicated from a place of fulfilledness, connectedness, I felt more genuine and true to myself. This connected me more with the people I related with. This type of communication, the marketing that comes from this place brought me honest and beautiful conversations, connection time, and also amazing leads, trust, the best business relationships.
If I felt the lack of it, I communicated from a place of scarcity and need. With this feeling, I felt not good enough, inadequate, not worthy, and I also felt bad about promoting myself, my services, communicating about my offerings. Sometimes I would not even want to show up and be around anyone, as I was in pain.
As Mother's Day is coming up, no wonder this topic became active and made me reflect. On sharing this, I feel my journey becomes complete.
As Mother's Day is coming up this weekend in NZ, it is also no coincidence that I chose to hold my first ThetaHealing course on this very weekend. It is my coincidental tribute to motherhood, the celebration of feeling loved, and knowing it is in there, in me, in us, ready to be accessed anytime, unconditionally. And this is of course no coincidence.
I feel grateful. I feel happy. And I wanted to share this because if there is anyone out there who now feels lost and stuck and unfulfilled, not quite getting the self-love like I was, and running into work to feel validated, feel accepted, feel loved, I trust this might give you hope.
That yes, you have it in you, too, and there are ways to find it - whether you are a mom, a dad, a parent-to-be, or a child of a mom and dad.
This is why I am excited to share one way, the ThetaHealing® way, this weekend.❤️
Here is to unconditional love. Would you like to know how it feels to have it, anytime, anywhere? If so, say yes!
I had some really interesting discoveries while working with my clients on their social media presence over the past few years. Oftentimes, many of them would come to a workshop, or a 1:1 training, to learn how Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn works.
They would get an understanding on the possibilities the platforms can offer to promote their services, themselves. They would get their social media strategies sorted, get clarity on what, how, when and where to post, and get excited and ready to start showing up and attracting new clients.
But then, something happens. They get stuck. They start procrastinating. They get into analysis paralysis as they strive for perfection, and end up not posting anything on their pages.
They know their business inside out, yet a feeling of inadequateness starts creeping in... The whole social media marketing becomes a struggle...
Many of you are now aware that I am integrating a whole new aspect into B!Social. Along with the much loved social media trainings & coaching to help promote a service, or get a product/ a message in front of more people, I am now offering a brand new element to support my clients on their journey to visibility.
This new line is focusing on the personal development side of things, something fundamental - so I believe - for the growth of any kind of a business.
Starting another big adventure of my life! I am now a ThetaHealing® Instructor! This picture was taken just before I started my certification with the founder of the technique, Vianna Stibal. Just a bit excited!
I came across the ThetaHealing® technique a couple of years ago - it is a meditation technique where you can work with the body, spirit and mind, unblock all sorts of limiting beliefs, blocked emotions, manifest, and access unconditional love without needing anyone or anything for it.
Hi, I'm Bea!